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Anne Marie Baugh
Allowing Yourself to Fail Toward Success
Ever get that tight clutchy feeling inside that says "There is
no flipping way I can do this!"Yes, we all have.This is your
personal internal protection monitor that keeps you safe in
life.It also keeps you bored and even makes you a bore.
Sometimes the protection monitor is a good thing, say when
speeding down a highway at 120 miles an hour and it's screaming
at you to stop this silliness.Very good at those times.
However, if your protection monitor is set on high and
everything out of the "entirely too comfortable for the comfort
zone" makes you feel squeamish, it's time to reset your thermostat
and make a go at the real life.Dare to be uncomfortable and you
dare to really succeed!
It's really very simple to get started.All you have to do is
allow yourself to fail.Cough, sputter, what?Yeah, you heard
me, allow yourself to fail.It's when we get all pent up inside
that we build walls to new experiences and opportunities that
will make our businesses flourish.Sometimes it's the fear of
making a fool of ourselves.Sometimes it's the fear of not
looking good enough.Sometimes it's just plain fear!And the
death of fear is permission to fail.The amazing part of this
remedy is how much you won't actually live up to that
permission.But yes, there will be a few stumbles as well.
Start by expanding your horizons right now.Make a business
list of all the things you wish you could do but think you
can't.Now quit thinking and starting devising a plan for just
one of those items on the list.Before you start, use a tool
many writers implement to get past writer's block, tell yourself
to begin planning it but do it very, very badly.This is about
action, not perfection.It's about changing your internal
paradigm so that you can grow toward more opportunity.By
accepting failure as the bottom line, you allow yourself to risk
toward greater success.You make the expectation comfortable
while venturing into something new and uncomfortable.
Let's take a simple example.While teaching my daughter to
bake cookies, her perfectionism got in the way of her success.
The first batch turned out badly and she cried for hours
determined never to bake cookies again.While soothing her
ruffled ego, I explained my approach to a new recipe which is
simply as a learning avenue.Realizing that I know nothing
about the new recipe I plan botching it up and then improving
from there.Now my daughter uses this technique for not only
learning to cook, but learning to do anything new and she is
finally allowing herself to thrive!
I am not suggesting making a life long habit of doing things
badly.Always give it your best shot but at the same time give
your poor psyche a break and allow yourself a learning curve.
Perfectionism will kill your creativity in marketing, business
planning, and life.When you have what is perceived as a
failure, turn it into a stepping stone instead of a wall.See
your next effort as better than the last and your abilities will
soar, as will your confidence.Confidence is built as much on
little failures that get better as on big successes that get
bigger.
The *average* entrepreneur millionaire leaves in his trail
approximately eighteen failures.Failures that taught and
strengthened and pushed those achievers forward.Trust me when
I say that after 18 failures they decided along the way to allow
these failures in order to eventually succeed.
So what are you still sitting here for?Go out and try
something scary and new.Break the internal bonds that keep you
nice and safe and your paycheck predicable.Let yourself fail
toward your success!I dare you .
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Anne Marie Baugh is a noted publicist online publicist to rising
Cyber-stars. She also owns and operates Write-Promotion an online
business that works hands-on with businesses looking for
promotional avenues andavenues to cyber-success!
Create Success Today at: http://www.write-promotion.com
or write to: write@write-promotion.com
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